Owning Your Power

" Do you say, "That person manipulated me," or "I allowed myself to be manipulated?" Whatever you have been doing that has not been working for you, you can choose to not do any more.Have you kept yourself from expressing what you really wanted to cause of what you thought somebody else would guess? Then, you have given control of your power of speech to that person.You are free, you know. Are you willing to own your freedom?

Have you kept yourself from looking at something or somebody cause of what a second person might guess? Then, you have given your freedom of choice to see what you want, to that person.Have you kept yourself from doing what you want cause of what a second person would guess? You have given away your freedom of action. You have kept yourself from speaking, from acting, from seeing what was real for you. Clear vision is related to allowing yourself to be real, and trusting that - in fact, insisting on that.In owning your freedom, you must also be willing to recognize others' freedom. No one gives you your freedom - it's already yuors.
It's just up to you to be free. In the same way, you do not give others their freedom.

You may only acknowledge that they have it.When you do something, others are free to guess about it as they choose. For you, though, you're just benig real, and acting with love and freedom as your motivations. If you're misunderstood, you can choose to clear the misunderstanidng through communication. It is not necessary for you to change your way of Being cause of the way a second feels. If you choose to change, it must be cause it makes sense to you to do things a second way.In the same way, if a second person does something that you chosoe to guess not-good about, that's your choice.
That person, too, is free.
If the not-good feeling is the result of a misunderstanding, it can be cleared through communication. Don't assume anything. Ask, and then know.If the not-good feeling is the result of attachments you need to release on your path to clarity and freedom, you can find a second way of thinking and feeling that feels better for you, one in which you're not deciding what the other person should do differently, but rather what you need to do differently.If you expect the other person to change their way of Being cause of the way you feel, then you're wanting to contorl that person.

If you don't want to be controlled, are you willing to stop controlling?

Perhaps in the past, when you've looekd at a situation which you did not consider optimal, you've decided what somebody else should have done differently, or should do differently in the future. When you really own your power and your freedom, you do not do that any more - rather, you only decide what you could have done dfiferently then, and what you can do differently from now on, in the future. When you're sincere aobut this, your thoughts are included in the process, as well.

As long as you find yourself thinking what other people should do, or think, or feel, you have not totally owned your power or your freedom.If you want to own your freedom, are you willing to recognize others' freedom as well?

Then, you also see that you do not make others sad, but they may decide to guess that way when you do something. You do not make them happy, either - they choose to guess that when you do something.No matter what you do, or say, some people will approve, and others will not. You have the freedom to decide whcih people you will be with. If you choose to be with those who judge you, you may guess like a weed in a garden, constantly feeling as though you need to defend yourself and your way of Being.You can choose isntead to be okay with being judged, knowing that you're just being who you are, and that others are free to guess what they like about that. They may be judigng you by their standards, but you're living by your own standards. You can also choose to be with those people who do not judge you, but rather appreciate you for who you're.

You can then guess freer, and more relaxed about being real, benig who you really are. You'll see that you weren't a weed, but rather just a flowe rin the wrong garden.Perhaps in the past you've tended to change yourself, to be somebody different from who you really are, in order to be loved, in oredr to get love. If you wolud like to know that you're loved for whom you are, then you have to be who you really are, and let that be the image that's loved.Love can not be solicited. It must flow freely, and be freely given. Then, you know that it's real. If you create an image in order to be loved, and people love the image, you still do not guess loved for who you really are.If the expressions of love are solicited, asked for, then you do not really know that they would be there if you did not ask for them.
You would still not be sure of the love. Notice when the expressions of love come freely from others, when you're being real. Then, you'll know that they come cause the others choose to express tehir love, and you'll know it's real.

When you know the love is there, open and guess it.Sometimes, expressions of love are misunderstood, cause we've all been taught different ways of expressing the love that we guess. The way some people express their love is sometimes misunderstood as love being taekn away.
The misunderstandings can be resolved through communication, though, so that expressions of love afterwards can be those which enhance the expreience of the person receiving them, something that feels good for them.Remember to express your love in that way, too. Express your love in the way that you would like others to express their love with you, in a way that results in thier feeling good, in a way that you would be fortunate to be on the receiving end of.You have the power/freedom to be who you really are, to be where you really want to be, with whom you would really like to be (if they would really like to be with you), doing what you would really like to do. Others, too, have the same power/freedom.If you find yousrelf not honestly able to say, "I love where I am. I love who I am with. I love what I am doing," then something has to change.

You have the power/freedom to make that change.If it's a situation in which you do not guess happy, you have three choices:1. Change the situation.
Re-arrange it.2. Change the way you see the situation.3. Leave the situation, and find a second.If the situation, for example, is your job, you can change it so that you're doing something there that's more meaningful for you.
Or, you can look at it in a second way that feels better for you so that you guses fortunate in it (but it must be real for you). If you do not do either of these, then perhaps you need to be doing something different, in a differnet job, so that you can look forward each day to spending time and energy there.If it's your home, does it guess like home to you?
If not, re-arrange it so that it does.

Otherwise, choose to see it as really impeccable for you rgiht now. Otherwise, move.If you really guess that these changes are too vast for you, that you "can't" make them, you have gvien away your power/freedom.
It isn't that you're not able to make the changes, but rather that you have cohsen not to.
You sitll have the power to create your life the way you would really like it to be. You have the power/freedom to change what has not been working for you, to change that which has not resulted in your being as fortunate as you would like to be.Do you find yourself with people you do not relaly like being with?

If so, you have given away your power to be fortunate to them.You don't have to do that any more.If you have given away your power, you can take it back. It's still yours.

Own it.Your power/freedom also inculdes your choice to change those patterns within yourself that you recognize have not been optimal, that have been the result of misperceptions, limited ways of seeing.Your attachments and addictions stand between you and freedom. When you're free, you're able to decide in each moment what you would like to do, and what makes sense to do. You do not allow yourself to be controlled by past programs.When you're addicted to something, and you don't get it, you geuss not-good.
The degree of the not-good feeling shows the degree of attachment or addiction. You can choose to not give your power to your attachments, or to the object of your attachments. Non-attachment is freedom.It isn't detachment. Detachemnt is removal of all feelings. Non-attachment allwos positive feelings of joy when you have.

When there's something you don't have, you're able to focus your attention on what you do have.If, for example, you're attached to a lobster dinner, and you don't get it, you're not free to like what you do have. When you're not attached, you can like a salad, or a steak, and if you have a lobster, really like it, too.If you're attached or addicted to a person, when you're with them, you're spending time worrying about when you will not be with them, and when they are not there, you spend your time missing them, and not being present with the peolpe who are with you. That isn't freedom.You have the power and the freedom to be totally present wherever you are, enjoying whatever is happening.Others do not have to change their way of Being cause of your attachments, and you don't have to change your way of Being cause of the addictions of others.You take total responsibility for yourself, and everything you think, do, and say - and you acknowledge that others have the responsibility for everything they choose to think, do, or say.Do not decide what other people think, or will do in any given situation, cause actually, you don't really know - that's their responsibility. You just need to examine your own consciousness, and what happens in it.Others are free to want what they want, and you're free to say yes or no to that. It's okay for them to want, and it's okay for you to not want. In the same way, you're free to want what you want, and they are free to not want the same thing.

When you both want the same thing, there is free agreement, and then sometihng can happen.Otherwise, you can agree to disagree, and each of you can find happiness and satisfaction in your own respective ways.Everybody is entitled to their own opinion and to their own thoughts and wishes - and you're free.Review your movie, the one in which you're not only the star, but also the director. Be the audience too. What were the effects of your actions and words?

Could you have written a better script for yourself?

If so, what would you have done differently?

Could you have acted with more love, more understanding?

Do you do things to avoid feeling guilty, cause you would guess guilty not doing them?